My neighbor said something to me this weekend that wasn’t necessarily profound, but definitely turned a switch in my head. I was walking the dog, and complaining to him about how my boyfriend likes to sleep in until 2 or 3 in the afternoon some weekends. While he sleeps, I feel like I need to be quiet in the house and wait for him to wake up so that we can do something fun together. What Bob said to me was:
“When you live with someone whose sleep schedule is so different from yours, you just have to live your own life.”
DUH! How had I never looked at it this way before? With that in my head, I walked back home, packed a bag, said goodbye to rip van winkle, and headed to the lake by myself. Well, my parents and siblings were there so I guess I wasn’t alone, but I realized that all this time I’ve spent waiting for someone else to wake up was just wasted time. I wait to start my day until he wakes up, hoping to spend time together all weekend. What I should do instead, is wake up early and do the things I need or want to do that day. If I want to go for a hike in the morning, and can’t wake him up, I need to just do it myself! As I type this I realize how ridiculous it sounds, but for some reason, I just never got it until someone flat out said it to me.
It just goes to show me that things I think are problems can sometimes be solved by looking at them a little bit differently. If I can take the things that annoy me, and try to spin them into a positive somehow, maybe I can have little epiphanies like this more often. Jon leaves a wake of wrappers and plates behind him…but he’s just helping me hone my cleaning skills. Hmm, maybe not everything can be solved this way.